At Home Fashion



I'm afraid this is what my fashion often looks like...No...This is not my dog, I found this on the internet! 

I recently put up a Facebook status that read, “Calling all SAHM...Have you encountered the SAHM wardrobe...or lack thereof....share your thoughts on this one, would you?!”  I received a tremendous amount of feedback on this issue…so much that it inspired me to blog about it. 

Transitioning from career woman to stay at home wife and mom has changed me in more ways than I sometimes realize.  In the beginning, I was consistent about waking up and getting a shower, doing my hair, putting my make up on a dressing in something that might possibly be considered as cute, or nice.  Then, I started working out and I ditched the morning shower altogether and stayed in workout clothes all day as I felt like it encouraged me to workout anytime I could fit it in during the day. 

Now, in the 200 degree weather, it seems as though I have ditched the morning shower, ditched the workout clothes and the workout and just remained in my pajamas.  Sometimes, I even stay in my pjs all day, take a shower right before my husband gets home from work and then put some new clean pjs back on.  RIDICULOUS!  Needless to say this all leaves me feeling lazy, worthless, unproductive, unorganized and empty of energy and desire.

It’s just so hard to justify putting the time and energy into ‘getting dressed’ when I’m not even going to leave the house.  It doesn’t make sense.  Bending over the bathtub or scrubbing the toilet or mopping the kitchen floor with hair and makeup and boggles?!  Doesn’t make sense right?!

So, there is something powerful about ‘getting dressed.’  When I worked outside of the home I enjoyed putting together nice outfits and pairing them with cute shoes and fun accessories (all for a very thrifty price of course).  In fact, my husband used to ask me why I got so dressed up.  I enjoyed it. It made me feel energized, productive and put together.  It’s strange to me how much clothing can affect us. I was a big fan of ‘treasure hunting’ – going to local consignment shops and finding cute stuff in the midst of dusty smells and one hundred year old sweaters.  There was nothing like it…there in the middle of all of that chaos sat the perfect skirt or a brand new blouse with the tags still attached and in my size…like it was made for me!  Having kids, two 14 month olds, doesn’t allow a lot of time for ‘treasure hunting’ or anything else really.  (One would be different, but two…treasure hunting with two….just not quite as exciting…not to mention how I feel like every dime (and nickel) we have should be spent on our children and their needs and the like)

Don’t get me wrong…On the rare occasion that I go out of the house, other than for church on Sunday, I get dressed up (so to speak)...Shower, Hair, Makeup, Decent outfit and maybe even some accessories.  Who am I dressing for?  Myself?  Yes, maybe.  But there’s somebody more important than myself that I should be ‘dressing ‘for.  My husband. 

My husband met me when I first graduated college - of self-confidence and energy to put into my ‘style.’  We were so young and in love then that even a lack of style was still cute then. I still remember one of the first few times we went to dinner.  I was working as a teacher and I believe it was field day.  He called me last minute and there I was sweaty, board shorts and a hand painted t-shirt that my kindergartners had helped me with.  He thought I was cute J (Guess he was still blinded by love) 

I would like to still be able to draw my husband in the way I did before he was my husband.  I want him to be attracted to me, both physically as well as ways that are far greater than that. 

All that being said, I am in search of a new SAHM wardrobe and style. I’m also in search of the motivation to get into a routine to fit all of this into my already busy schedule. 

Would you believe I’ve seen websites devoted to this kind of thing?!  I must confess, I googled “stay at home mom fashion tips”  and apparently we aren’t the only ones involved in this epidemic! 

One fb friend had a great idea for a new business…SAHM Fashion!  I think it’s a great idea.  If I had any idea of how to start such a business I would jump all over it! 

So for now, I start with myself and invite you to begin with me, if you haven’t already...  To give ourselves and our husbands more than we may already be.  If we were to go to work outside of the home we would strive to dress to a t and arrive to work put together. Being a stay at home is a job I take very seriously.  I feel more responsible for this line of work than I have ever felt for anything…I wouldn’t show up to ‘work’ in a nightgown and I don’t think I should work as a SAHM in a nightgown either.  I suppose we’ve got to figure out where to draw the line? Where does work end and home begin as a SAHM?  But…….that’s an entirely different blog post.